For over a year now my husband and I have had concerns about our middle son. There were signs that his development wasn’t running along with other children his age, but many times we would find other things to lay the blame on so that we could stave off reality. We’d say it was his age, or he was hungry or tired, or the other kid provoked him into an overreaction. It’s not that we thought he was perfect, we knew something was off, but we honestly didn’t know what to do or who to turn to. Recently a good friend posted to Facebook that they finally had a diagnosis for her son…Autism. As scary as it was in the moment for her, she was excited to finally have some answers and direction so that she could help her son to the best of her ability and find him resources to thrive. This stirred something in me and because she had the courage to share with her friends and family, it gave me the courage to seek treatment for my son. The very next day our son had a full blown melt down and I looked at my husband and said, “we need help, we can’t wait any longer”.
I still didn’t know where to go or what to do, but I began asking. I talked to a few people that I knew who I thought could point me in the right direction, and they made some suggestions. One of those suggestions that stuck out to me was a place called Brain Balance because mutual friends had actually SEEN results, and they use a holistic approach instead of starting with medication. This was important to me because if we are able to help him without medication, then this was the direction that I wanted to go!
The very next day I went to a Homeschool Conference and low and behold Brain Balance was there. I talked with one of the directors of a center and during our conversation I became overwhelmed with the feeling of hope…Hope that this could be it, this could be the solution for our son!
That afternoon I listened to a presentation of another Brain Balance director and as she described what it means to have a right brain weakness, it nearly fit my son to a T. Right brain weakness is where many people with autism, ADHD, OCD, ODD, etc. fall into. The right side of their brain is weak and needs to be worked and stimulated to help balance out their brain so that the two sides can communicate effectively. I sat there realizing that he needed more help than I could give him, and I needed to have him assessed so that I could get the correct help for him so that he would be able to thrive! Right now in our schoolwork it feels like we are just treading water. Although he has had some breakthroughs this school year, he has made zero progress in handwriting and reading.
I spent the next day of that weekend talking with my husband about the possibilities and praying to God that if this was going to help my little boy, that He would help us find a way to make it work. That Monday I called for an appointment, and we were in for an assessment by Thursday.
On assessment day I was able to have a good friend of ours watch our other two children and my son and I went in for what would be a 3 and 1/2 hour assessment. It was an exhausting day. The paperwork was extensive, and he wasn’t happy about having to be there, but I left feeling like it was the first step in the right direction for him! We scheduled a time the following week to go over his results, and I went through a range of emotions as my husband and I discussed how we could possibly make this happen for him. Drive time, astronomical cost, a giant change in his diet, and the amount of commitment needed to benefit from Brain Balance are all factors that really have me feeling overwhelmed. In my next post I’ll begin sharing what’s next in our adventure to help him and continue on this journey of wellness as a family.
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